How does Slutylish Fight Slut-shaming & Gender Disparity?

During an election campaign in 2014, one leader used the word chai-wala—a tea vendor in a derogatory sense to shame the then PM candidate of India, but he, instead of being ashamed, wore it as a batch of honour and changed the meaning of the word from negative to positive.

We also tried to do the same with the word slut and started a campaign against slut-shaming by writing articles that presented the word slut in a positive way under the banner of Slutylish.

We define SLUTYLISH as a fearless style of positive living with a feeling of gratitude. Our mission is to help people see that happiness is a choice and so is misery.

The word slutylish is derived from the word slut, which literally means dirt. There are two ways of looking at it: one way is to look the word dirt in negative way as in the sense of dirty. Another way is to look it as capable of producing lotus, a beautiful flower that is used as a symbol for enlightenment.

The meaning doesn’t lie in word but within us. We impart meaning to a word according to our way of thinking. It’s just like how do we see water in a tumbler: half empty or half filled? In the words of William Shakespeare, “There’s nothing either good or bad, but thinking makes it so.”

Dr. Viktor Emil Frankl is a noted psychologist and neurologist as well as a Holocaust survivor. Despite the tragic deaths of his father, mother, brother and wife in Nazi camps, he believed that everything could be taken from a man except the one thing: the last of the human freedoms—to choose one’s attitude in any given set of circumstances, to choose one’s own way.

In his book Man’s Search for Meaning, Dr. Viktor wrote: “Even though conditions such as lack of sleep, insufficient food and various mental stresses may suggest that the inmates were bound to react in certain ways, in the final analysis it becomes clear that the sort of person the prisoner became was the result of an inner decision, and not the result of camp influences alone.”

Nowadays, we frequently use the phrase hip hip hooray to show our enthusiasm and celebration mood, but do you know that hip hip hooray used to be a Nazi war cry for invading the Jewish ghettoes during the Holocaust?

Words meaning and connotation keep changing all the time. The context in which slut is used today was not the context when the word was originated.

It was first used in 14th century by Geoffrey Chaucer in his book Canterbury Tales in the Prologue to the Canon’s Yeoman’s Tale: “Why is thy lord so sluttish, I thee pray, and yet hath power to buy better clothes…” Geoffrey used the word to convey that the dresses the lord used to wear didn’t match with his status in the society.

In Urdu, the word tawaif is used for slut. They were once regarded as the authority on etiquette and social graces. On account of the characteristics of the tawaifs, we suggest that when someone calls you a slut, know that you’re a creative, multitalented, powerful, self-dependent, trustworthy, well-mannered, patriotic person.

Our attitude plays a major role in the process of assigning meaning. We attach positive meaning if our attitude is positive, and we attach negative meaning if our attitude is negative.

At first our attitude shapes the meaning of the word, and later the inherent meaning of those words start to shape us.

Anthony Robbins, in his book Awaken the Giant Within, wrote: “It’s never the environment; it’s never the event of our lives, but the meaning we attach to the events—how we interpret them—that shapes who we are today and who we will become tomorrow. Beliefs are what make the difference between a lifetime of joyous contribution and one of misery and devastation.”

Most beliefs are formed by words and can be changed by words as well. One such belief is the cause of gender disparity in the society.

It’s true that male and female are not equal, but the difference lies only in tip of the iceberg; unfortunately, tip is the only visible part of the iceberg.

Sedan, Hatchback, SUV, Limousine, etc. are subset of Car that itself is a subset of Vehicle. They are more similar and less different. The same is the case with genders. Their similarities are greater than their disparities.

It’s irony that we have words like he/she or his/her to represent their inequality, which is very small in comparison to their similarities, but no word to represent their equality.

Most of the time, we have to use gender specific word when we don’t need to; a friend is gender neutral, but out of helplessness, males use he/his and females use she/her because there’s no common pronoun for both.

We are working on a worldwide campaign to introduce a common pronoun for both the genders. We are positive that it’ll help in changing the mindset of people and bridge the gap between the genders, as Plutarch said, “In words are seen the state of mind, character and dispositions of the speaker.”

For details of the campaign, visit slutylish.com.

426 total views, 6 views today

Team Slutylish

Slutylish is a fearless style of positive living with a feeling of gratitude. We believe happiness is a choice and so is misery. Currently, we are working on Gender Equality. Join Us.
Team Slutylish

Latest posts by Team Slutylish (see all)

Leave a Reply

%d bloggers like this: